Betsy?!
WHAT?
Betsy come in here.
WHY?
Betsy did you.......?
Ugh....YES!!!!
Betsy you need to.......!
I KNOW!!!!
Betsy don't forget to......!
I DID!!!
Oh and also you need to.....
OKAAAYYY!!!
Are you seriously talking to me like THAT?
( I quietly walk away....my Mama tought me sometimes it's better to say nothing at all ) :)
Betsy, I've had enough, bend over the bed.
NO!!!
Now Betsy!
WHY??
You need to learn to watch that mouth of yours.
But I didn't SAY ANYTHING !?!?!
Betsy, I've had enough, bend over the bed.
NO!!!
Now Betsy!
WHY??
You need to learn to watch that mouth of yours.
But I didn't SAY ANYTHING !?!?!
Mm hmm.... Now I'm not going to say anything.
( Ha! In my dreams)
WHACK!!
OWWW!!! OKAY! I'm SORRY!! That's ENOUGH!!!
Ha! Are you kidding? This time you are going to tell ME why you are here.....WHACK!!
I'm SORRY!! I really am!!!!
I'm sure you are, but what are you sorry for....? WHACK!!!
OWWW!!!
( Okay Betsy think fast. If I admit I was disrespectful using simple words....I will be here daily....If I don't....I may be here all night.)
WHACK!!! Is it that hard to figure out?
OWWW!!!! NO! I'm SORRY!!
We've established your sorry, or at least your a$$ is....I'm asking you one more time...what are you sorry for?
WHACK!!!
OUCHHH! Just give me a break to think about it! (Ha! That's it I need time to figure this out)
WHACK!!! Take all the time you need...WHACK!!
NO STOP!! I can't think while you do that!
WHACK!!
OKAY OKAY!!! I give in....you can tell me what I did. (fingers crossed hoping, hoping)
WHACK!! Don't tell me what I can do.
(Ugh! At this point my bottoms getting numb so I can take it better...but I can't let on so I have to keep yelling)
OWWW!!!! THAT HURTS!! (Shhh! ;) )
(New deliema....a couple of HoH's told Brice he will know I've had enough when I relax and stop fighting....not sure it will work here though...I better keep squirming)
WHACK!!! Both cheeks he somehow found a fresh spot!!!
OKAY!! OKAY!!! I WAS DISRESPECTFUL!!!
Now we are getting somewhere!
WHACK!!
NO! You said I had to tell you what I did and I DID!!
How were you disrespectful?
(Ugh....why did I want this lifestyle?)
With my tone.
WHACK!!
Hey! I admited it!!
Yes, that was good, your getting there. Now tell me what else you did that was disrespectful?
That wasn't being disrespectful! I didn't have anything nice to say. (sniff pout)
WHACK!!!
OKAY! I shouldn't have done that. (sniff)
What did you do?
(Sigh) I didn't answer you and walked away when you asked me a question.
WHACK!!!! Both cheeks again...worst swat of all!
(All I could do was sobb....my body totally relaxed, all tension was gone as I lay there crying uncontrollably)
(Brice began rubbing my bottom at this point) Do you realize I almost never use that type of 'you are annoying me' tone with you?
I know (sniff) (oh dear....he's going there)
On the rare occasion I have, you didn't like it did you.
Gulp...no.
In fact I think I remember your feelings being hurt so bad you cried.
(I thought he said he wasn't going to talk)
I nodded yes. (sniff, sniff)
(By this point I'm cuddled up in his lap with my head buried under his chin)
Don't you think it hurts my feelings when you talk to me like that?
Well yes, when you put it like that....(pout, sniff)
You know how much I love you right?
(On that note, I begin sobbing again)
(Brice holds me tight)
I know! I love you too...and I am really sorry (sobbing).
He then shows me his love in his own special way and I know I am forgiven.
If you had told me a year ago this was how we would settle arguments I would have called you nuts. As bad as it was, I always talked to Brice like that before dd. I don't think even Brice realized before dd, how damaging simple words can be to a marriage when added to a certain tone.....I'm sure he was still hurt by them, but just grouped it together with other things that annoyed him and let it fester. He would then rebel against me in some way.... to hurt me back.
Hind sight really is 20/20. This tone of voice thing is a work in progress for me...sigh...but I am going to try. And not just because I'll get spanked for it, but more because I don't want to hurt the love of my life. :)
So....until next time (hopefully just a week this time;)).....
Watch out for those 'Simple little words'
